Monday, December 6, 2010

Relationship Daddies

Sorry, it's been a while since I posted but I'm working like a slave these days :(

This topic idea came from something I saw on twitter.  You can all thank @lilduval for kinda incensing me and therefore making this blog-worthy.

Now, all men who are in children's lives only for the duration of the relationship with the mother are DEAD ASS WRONG.  Please don't assume I give anyway a free pass on this...I don't.  But I guess as a mother, at the end of the night I must blame the mother for allowing this transient person into her child's life.

Apparently I'm very shady when it comes to my child--I've been told this, I manage to continue to not give two damns about how anyone feels about that.  I've yet to be involved with a man who was worthy of meeting my child...not a single one.  Not that they weren't good men per se...they just weren't the man I planned to settle down with and marry.  So why would they be worthy of meeting my princess?  And asking too many questions about her is a turn-off for me.  My child has a father and I'm neither looking for a better model nor a replacement.  But I understand (ok I don't understand, I just know) that I'm not amongst the majority when it comes to this.  Ladies...why are you introducing your most precious gift(s) to some man you've only known to have breathed for 6 months???

Now, back to you men.  If you have a child of your own (assuming you are a part of their life--if you're not then I'm judging you for that as well) and know the importance of the role of daddy in a child's can you live with yourself and do this to an innocent child and still live with yourself?  I have an my dear, are a piece of shit.  And if you grew up without a father, while that may mean you are not 100% clear on what daddy do know what it felt like to have daddy not fill a void.  And can you do that to another person when you know the pain it caused you?

For the curious... @lilduval (and I hope he was joking since I know he's a father-but I didn't get that vibe) basically admitted to being a relationship daddy.  All on board while mommy's warming his penis...but not to be found once things get a little shaky. 

So, tell do you feel about the relationship daddy?  Are you one?  Do you allow them into your child's life?


  1. Wow that's deep....I myself do not introduce men to my children because I agree...unless they are going to be a constant in your life for a long time or are worthy and trustworthy of meeting your children then it's not necessary.

  2. I'm a divorced mother of 4 girls. And I've been in a relationship for the last 3yrs. The guy I'm see has never been in my home or around my girls. I love him and trust him with my life and theirs. But I can't bring someone in my home that is not my husband. I'm trying to make sure that the morals and values that i've taught them continue. My guy understands and supports me fully on my decision.