Real Adult Talk

NAPOLEON OR TINY TIM?

2011-02-09T17:29:00.000-08:00

I know someone got where I'm going with this from the title. For those of you who did not, let me explain.

Vertically challenged men very often have attitude problems...I don't think there is much denying that. But I don't consider that a Napoleonic complex like many people do...b/c since I've started giving shorter men a chance, I've noticed that is not quite being fair. Don't get me wrong, some short men do have issues based solely upon their height...those men are Tiny Tim's.

There is nothing remarkable about a Tiny Tim...he's just tiny. For me, he is also inclined to pluck my nerves and be the recipient of a cuss out at some not far off point in our knowing each other.

Napoleons, on the other hand are pretty damn remarkable!!! Now, the attitude is there, but it's not height-derived-it's based on the fact that the 3rd leg is banging off the knee cap of one of those legs used for walking. Napoleon's attitude is in knowing that his package is bigger than a dude twice his size and the knowledge that if you were to see what he's workin with...you might not be so quick to sleep on him.

This is of course just one woman's opinion...

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RANDOM THOUGHT: I KNOW I'M NOT ALONE

2011-02-09T17:27:00.000-08:00

I was watching a repeat of Bill Maher with one of my guy friends...it was shortly after (men would have to tell me which athlete this was) an athlete had been outed for sending nude texts of himself. Bill stated that women just don't want to see that, which caused a look (at me) from my friend...and a look of disbelief (from me) to Bill.

The look I got was b/c this same person has sent me several of those same kind of texts b/c as I will tell any man who is willing to send a pic (I'm even really ok with you just whippin it out in my presence) "I just wanna see them all".

And I DO wanna see them, I don't necessarily desire to touch them or anything, but it doesn't hurt to look right? If anyone is inspired to send me a pic...my email is below--I'm not laughing.

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DAMAGED GOODS

2011-01-19T17:13:00.000-08:00

I think everyone has something, or for some people way too many things (how you doin' Chilli?) that would make them consider someone not dateable. I'm kinda wondering what those things are for other people. I'm not so much wondering about those "at that time" things that make you not date someone...like them not currently having a job (unless like someone I know that not currently has been going on for the entire year I've known him and he'd already told me he had been out of work for close to a year when I met him) or a car, etc...these are changeable things...unless you are someone who always discludes someone based on things that can be changed.

I personally think I'm pretty easy-going where this is concerned (I'm fairly sure I can't count on both hands the number of people who would object). The biggie's for me are: you cannot have more than 3 children (I don't care if all 5 of your kids are with one woman-that's too many damn kids for me and I'm not interested), you cannot have more than 2 women who have mothered your children (I don't care if you've been married 3 times (that's an issue anyway) I can't have to deal with more than 2 females in our life. You cannot have been married more than twice-and I'm really shaky on that twice...once would work better. You can't not be taking care of your kids if you have them...while that may be changeable...it shows a serious character flaw and I can't get down with that nonsense. You cannot have a serious dependency issue of any sort...and that can be drugs, alcohol, your mother (momma's boys are not my style...there can only be one female in charge and I'm an alpha female...so you know who it's gonna be right?). And I think the last would be you MUST have a backbone...if you allow me to I will walk over you once and jump on you the second time around-and please don't mis-interpret what I mean. I know some females are into being shaken and shoved and whatnot (not that mess--it will turn domestic cause I don't play that and I will blackout and try to kill your ass).

So talk to me...I'm especially interested in hearing the male perspective.

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CAN'T BUY ME LOVE

2011-01-04T18:26:00.000-08:00

So why the hell do I see so many people trying to do just that?

If you buy a friend and go broke...will they still be your friend? Not likely. So why do you think a significant other would fall into different criteria???

I don't know if men deal with this...I think women use their bodies to buy men...and primarily their 3 penetrable orifices. I'm not talking about that (although ya gotta admit it's the same damn thing)...I'm talking about someone straight up and down trying to buy you.

I know I've had more than a few men try to buy my time. It started back in college when the owner of a local bar/eatery wanted to make me the manager (mind you my major was English and I'd only waitressed for about 10 minutes and can't bartend) of his establishment. Of course, the price was that I also be his trophy. He was old enough to be my father. But it hasn't ended. Some days I wonder if it's something about me that makes men think they need to impress me (this has continued on with Bentley dude, $150,000 Benz dude, Range Rover dude, owner of multiple properties dude, owns an airplane dude, etc.). Please note that none of these men had names or faces...you were what you presented yourself as...an object. Not an object of my desire because I'm not materialistic and despise that trait in others. But merely an object...not one I even desired to have.

Even when I told one dude that he was "electricity" he still didn't seem to get that there was no romantic connection...you wanted to pay a bill and I gave you one to pay. And when I was done with him...while it hurt to not have that bill paid, the person who paid the bill didn't matter...cause he never did.

So why are people so dead-set on buying something that really cannot be bought?

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Random Thought: Love NO Limit

2010-12-06T20:32:00.000-08:00

I do really like Keri Hilson's song Breaking Point...and I really do feel what she's saying. But then I think back to my girl Mary and think of her song Love No Limit...I still love this song. Talk about 2 very different relationship stances.

Does Keri's breaking point perhaps signify why so many young women are single, whether happily or unhappily?

Does Mary's lack of a limit on love tell the tale of why so many women stay in what others deem a failed relationship?

These are just my thoughts...feel free to comment.

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Relationship Daddies

2010-12-06T20:13:00.000-08:00

Sorry, it's been a while since I posted but I'm working like a slave these days :(

This topic idea came from something I saw on twitter. You can all thank @lilduval for kinda incensing me and therefore making this blog-worthy.

Now, all men who are in children's lives only for the duration of the relationship with the mother are DEAD ASS WRONG. Please don't assume I give anyway a free pass on this...I don't. But I guess as a mother, at the end of the night I must blame the mother for allowing this transient person into her child's life.

Apparently I'm very shady when it comes to my child--I've been told this, I manage to continue to not give two damns about how anyone feels about that. I've yet to be involved with a man who was worthy of meeting my child...not a single one. Not that they weren't good men per se...they just weren't the man I planned to settle down with and marry. So why would they be worthy of meeting my princess? And asking too many questions about her is a turn-off for me. My child has a father and I'm neither looking for a better model nor a replacement. But I understand (ok I don't understand, I just know) that I'm not amongst the majority when it comes to this. Ladies...why are you introducing your most precious gift(s) to some man you've only known to have breathed for 6 months???

Now, back to you men. If you have a child of your own (assuming you are a part of their life--if you're not then I'm judging you for that as well) and know the importance of the role of daddy in a child's life...how can you live with yourself and do this to an innocent child and still live with yourself? I have an answer...you my dear, are a piece of shit. And if you grew up without a father, while that may mean you are not 100% clear on what daddy does...you do know what it felt like to have daddy not fill a void. And again...how can you do that to another person when you know the pain it caused you?

For the curious... @lilduval (and I hope he was joking since I know he's a father-but I didn't get that vibe) basically admitted to being a relationship daddy. All on board while mommy's warming his penis...but not to be found once things get a little shaky.

So, tell me...how do you feel about the relationship daddy? Are you one? Do you allow them into your child's life?

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Random Thought: Feeling a Little Airy?

2010-11-24T09:58:00.000-08:00

I see women bent over, sitting, etc. with a substantial portion of their asses hanging out. Every woman I know has had pant-slippage at one point or another, but ladies...don't you feel that?

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Random Thoughts: No Homo

2010-11-22T10:28:00.000-08:00

Why do people feel the need to say "no homo"? Saying this to me immediately sends up a red flag...you are a person who is not comfortable with or sure about your sexuality. Otherwise, why would you feel the need to say that?

Do you use this term? If so...why?

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Good and Bad Hair

2010-11-21T16:20:00.000-08:00

Don't let the title fool you. I'm speaking very literally of hair that looks good and hair that looks bad.

I gotta say I love the ability to do all sorts of things with my hair, but the goal at the end of the night is for it to always look good...and equally important...natural.

It seems, however that these goals are not important for everyone...and IMO many of you ladies (this is not a race-specific thing...clowns come in all colors) look just like the picture I posted above.

When I heard the other week on the radio that all the green hair in Philly was sold out until January, I was appalled. Not only that there were women out there who desired green hair, but that there was such a massive amount as to have completely been sold out in a city over-ridden with hair supply stores. My next thought, where does one work if they have green hair? I could only think of about 3 lucrative careers for someone with green hair.

I recall when it was difficult to determine if someone was wearing fake hair, now it's often blatantly apparent--why is the edge of your lacefront so obviously the edge of your lacefront??? People used to dye their hair with kool-aid...now they dye it kool aid colors. Manic panic was used for streaks (only on a full head if you were a Goth or Skater), now it's commonplace and often worn in the form of a head-full of manic panic yaky.

Are we running out of things to do with our hair? Or have we run out of the sense required to do reasonable things with our hair?

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Random Thoughts: Social Networking

2010-11-17T09:57:00.000-08:00

Ok, so I decided to do a little random thought thingie every now and again. You can comment...I don't care. But they are my random thoughts so there is no rhyme nor reason to them....there will not be a picture on these...too much randomness.

My random thought: If you are concerned about who's viewing your profile or pictures...why are you on Facebook? Was it the "social" or the "networking" part that kinda threw you off?

You may see more random thoughts than actual posts...I have lots of thoughts...they are generally random.

Love ya'll!

Sugar

To wax or not to wax...

2010-11-15T14:26:00.000-08:00

Can anyone tell me when how much or little hair you have on your vagina became such an important matter? This is another thing that just didn't seem to exist 10 years ago. No one cared then--so why do so many people care now?

Personally I've never been a fan of the full brazilian (I waited a lotta years to grow hair in my special place) and of the few men I've asked...they weren't either. However I'm also not a fan of a whole hair gone wild thing down their either. I lean more towards a landing strip or well-trimmed bikini look. I think landing strips are just cute as can be and the bikini wax is an all-around functional choice.

But what are your thoughts? What do you have? What do you like? And why?

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Squirters

2010-11-10T16:53:00.000-08:00

I think we all know what I am referring to, but in case you are amongst the un-knowing. I am referring to female ejaculation. My first question...when in the hell did this become such a focal point for men??? Prior to about 2 years ago (leading me to believe this is a media-driven development) no one had ever in life asked me if I was a squirter. Now I hear it tossed around commonly.

Personally I don't believe most women are squirters...I also don't believe many women know the difference between the sensation of orgasm and that of needing to relieve their bladder. The feeling is very similar. Also, in order to be considered "ejaculation" there needs to be a gush. Not the normal trickle that women get... a gush like a man gets is what I consider squirting.

So men, tell me...how many women have you been with who squirted? And are you sure it was cum and not simply piss? Please don't use the argument that "they come from different holes"--those holes are inches apart and you cannot honestly tell me when you're doing your thing that you really notice what hole things are coming from.

If I'm totally off-base...please set me straight.

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I'm Back Bitches!!!

2010-11-10T16:25:00.000-08:00

Well hello again! It's been a minute since I blogged, but dammit, I have opinions, and things to discuss. Plus, I missed ya'll and the craziness that this blog brought. Sooooo...obviously I decided to re-open the blog...hopefully some of my former faithfuls will come back and show me some love.
In order to maintain an interest this time...I do not plan to post daily. I think that's why I lost interest before it went from being fun to being work. I may cover topics covered in the past--I deleted everything when I closed the blog before so forgive me for that, but it's been a while and I'd bet my perspective on some things changed. I'll also be writing less from my perspective and more from a general perspective. So I hope we can have some fun and informative discussions.

Love ya'll!!
Sugar aka So Mean

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